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Top 7 tips on getting back in Shape for Dating
After
a long-term relationship, divorce or loss of the spouse, getting back in the
dating pool may seem a daunting task indeed. You need to give yourself a time
to be ready, healed and positive about it and only then will you be bound to
succeed. And how exactly to get there, you ask? Well, just follow this 7 tips
and you'll be ready to jump on that horse in no time.
#1
Don't be a couch potato
Easier
said than done, we know. And while we do understand how hard returning to an
active lifestyle can be - and by this, we don't only mean physical activity but
also mingling with other people on various social events - we suggest you
should take baby steps first. Namely, a moderate physical activity can increase
your levels of energy and thus make you feel good about yourself, which will
consequently affect your social skills in a positive way. And this will
altogether help you with getting back into a dating game.
#2
Tell your friends that you're back in the game
We'd
like to stress out it would be best to do this only when you're really, and we
mean REALLY ready. There's no need to feel an extra pressure to get involved
with someone just because you're in your thirties and society standards say
it's the time to settle in and have a family, for instance; you should do it
for the sake of your own happiness only. And deep down inside, you'll know
exactly when the time is right. It's a kind of an inner alarm that will buzz
when you're finally ready, and we believe that everyone has one!
#3
Go Back to Your Favorite Places
You
might not feel like it at first, especially if you have some bad memories of
the guy whom you met in your favorite club and who left that big, ugly scar on
your heart a few years ago, for instance. On the other hand, the glass can be a
half full or half empty, depending on how you decide to see it, meaning that
you can also try to think of all the positive things that happened in your
favorite places. It doesn't have to be a club, it can be your favorite park
where you shared that first, sloppy kiss with a girl, for example. Just try to
remain positive at all cost and make your own life philosophy out of it!
#4
Avoid the presence of energetic vampires
If
you're feeling an extra sensitive or vulnerable because you belong to a group
of widows and widowers
dating again, for
instance, we would warmly advise you against surrounding yourself with people
who often complain or criticize others just so they can feel better about
themselves. You should also keep in mind these people often have an opinion
about basically anything, but it doesn't entitle them to make decisions on your
behalf. You and only you will know the best when the most convenient moment to
start pursuing romantic happiness again finally arrives.
#5
Get Ready for Trials and Errors
Don't
be too hard on yourself. Is there really a need to turn a regular date failure
into a large-scale drama? After all, finding a compatible partner has a lot to
do with luck too, but it doesn't imply that you should miss the fun while in
the process. Further, various dating gaffes can be something that you'll laugh
to tomorrow while telling them over and over again to your friends and family.
#6
Don't make Comparisons
So,
he doesn't look like your ex at all? Big deal! This isn't something that your
ex-girlfriend would approve? So what. Let exes be exes. After all, they are
what they are for a big reason. And you shouldn't allow anyone to come back
from their metaphorical grave to ruin your happiness. Enjoy the new things as
they are and be open-minded about various possibilities coming up along the
way.
#7
Dressed for success
It
might sound pretty trivial, we know, especially if you're casual type that
doesn't frankly care a lot about their appearance. Still, there are little
things that can make you feel good about yourself. This doesn't mean tons of
makeup or wearing a tie, but pampering yourself with a spa day, for instance,
or experimenting with a different fashion style that will make you feel good
about yourself.
What
do you think about these tips? Which one is the most important in your opinion?
Tell us all about it in the comment section!
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